“Oh, You’re a Blogger? That’s Cute.”

 Blogging is funny. The name is funny. The first time I heard the word “blog” my face twisted up in a grimace because it reminded me of “Blaaarrrgghhhhh”.

Typical Blogger, depicted by SNL

Though bloggers have had a bad rap over the years, everything from “All bloggers are narcissists!” to “Just because you can write one doesn’t mean you should…”, I think on the whole blogging – whether as a pursued hobby or professionally – has come to give us the points of view and opinions we often miss in more traditional forms of journalism.

I found two posts recently, on different sites, that discuss a few aspects of blogging most writers don’t talk about. I suspect there has come a time when any blogger has felt these things, whether they acknowledged them right away or they recognize familiar feelings when brought up directly.

The feelings of these writers are relatable to anyone, and I hope they’ll mean something to you by either being immediately relatable or simply to offer a “behind the scenes” look at what spilling it all on the internet can mean for some people.

Kathy of Healthy Happy Life blog

This first segment comes from Healthy Happy Life – a cooking blog that is truly one of the best, most comprehensive and beautiful cooking blogs on the entire internet. Hands down.  Sandwiched between (see what I did there?) countless posts of the loveliest and most inspiring recipes you ever did see, I found this post that addresses the sometimes uncomfortable feelings that come up when people don’t take your passion seriously. Perhaps at times you don’t even think of it as “serious work” because it’s never been defined as such.

Behind any finished product, hidden away from what is presented to an audience, a lot of work, time and money can go into something like blogging (or any hobby or profession, really). Take yourself seriously, and others will follow suit.

(excerpt from post)

“Still strolling the market I whip out my camera and snap away at the golden satsumas glistening in the morning sunshine. No, I’m not a photography hobbyist or a tourist gawking at the produce and to-die-for weather. Living, breathing and sharing healthy vegan food is what I do for a living. I love my job. But..

I love my job. But I hate my title. So I’m changing it.

And I want all my fellow career “food bloggers” out there to join me because everyone(“blogger” or not) needs a good title for their career. A title that actually describes what you do – and not merely a stereotype of what you do.”

Her new self-made, say-it-proud title is: Internet Content Producer. Sounds fancy! What a great idea.

Read the post DON’T CALL ME A FOOD BLOGGER on Healthy Happy Life

I just found the next blog when doing a search for vegan pregnancy books. This blogger is also a published author, and I am only kicking myself for not knowing about her earlier – especially now, but more on that in a minute.

Sayward of Bonzai Aphrodite

 Sayward wrote Bonzai Aphrodite – a vegan cooking, urban farming, eco-chic design and DIY blog. Everything she writes is told from a positive, encouraging and often times funny voice, and she makes it seems like any of us can tackle these projects or lifestyle changes.

Sadly, her most recent post is also her last. It’s an incredibly beautiful and intimate look at what a person can go through “off camera”. I encourage you to read the entire post.

(excerpt from post)

“The dilemma essentially is this: bloggers want to perpetuate positivity. To lift people up and empower them. We want to show you beautiful things. Or maybe I should just speak for myself. That’s what I want.

But in doing so, we paint an unrealistic, idealized version of a person – me – and of a life – my life. Again, just speaking for myself, I fear that I’ve created an impossible standard. A measuring stick whereby readers, trying to live up, will always believe they fall short. I know this because I’m also on the other side of it, with other bloggers, comparing myself to my perception of them, and feeling like I’m “less than”. And I know it because people write to me, feeling just exactly that way after reading Bonzai.

This is a real problem and it really breaks my heart. I don’t ever want to play a part in someone feeling bad about themselves.”

AND

“Over the years, one of the most frequent questions I’ve received is: “How the hell do you do it all?” Ha! But I’ll tell you the truth. For the first time, I’ll actually answer the damn question.

It comes at great cost. In order to “do” so much and give so much of myself, I set aside the things which are the most important. I sacrifice my relationships.

 I. Am. So. Burned. Out.
I need to clear everything out so that I can really see. I need some quiet so that I can take stock. I need to slow down. I need to know what it feels like to not always live a week (or a month) behind at my life. I need to find my happy, because I seem to have misplaced it.

And this hurts. I have a knot in my belly the size of Kansas and I feel like I’m letting everyone down, and I’m sorry, and I’ll miss you. I just really hope you can understand.”

Read the post “… 3 Years is a Good Solid Run…” here

Bonzai Aphrodite - cute happy vegan baby enjoying hummus. Too cute!

I read my favorite blogs enthusiastically, and a new post feels like a letter from a friend. When it comes to the more personal blogs, the authors actually seem to become my friends (some cases, in real life). I rely on them, I trust their advice, I want them to do well and be successful and happy.

It can be hard to put yourself on display and become vulnerable to people interpreting your life through their own eyes (and then of course, there are always those few people who love to dislike you, who can turn out to be the most loyal readers of all).

I have respect for anyone who takes action to follow their dreams and put themselves out there. You are a modern day hero. How’s that for a title?

2 thoughts on ““Oh, You’re a Blogger? That’s Cute.”

  1. Great post Jaime. And it’s absolutely true. As a blogger, you try to put your best foot forward, but sometimes that shows an unrealistic ideal. Like you, I read my fav blogs religiously and think of the writers as friends even though we may or may not interact on a regular basis. I think the best ones are honest and transparent, showing their warts. It makes them that much more easy to relate to.

  2. Excellent post Jaime. I often don’t know what to say when people in my work life come across my blog because it is so much more “me” than who they see in meeting rooms everyday. It is an interest balance to share attractive content and not let it seem inaccessible.

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