“I Just Want to…..”

"Oh Darling..." print by FiFi du Vie, $25 on Etsy

In the past week, I’ve had the same conversation many times, always  varied because of the people engaged but the theme is the  same. At some point, the person I was talking to said, “I just want to <fill this in with an activity they love> every day, make enough money to support myself, and be happy to do it every morning when I wake up.”

For some, it’s music, fashion or community planning. For others, it’s creating art, designing websites, baking beautifully decorated cakes, inspiring more people with words of encouragement.

For me, I found myself emailing the following to a friend:

I just want to do good things. Not make a million dollars. Just get in better shape financially and professionally, cook food that people enjoy and can feel good about, that helps people and the earth and animals, to live with love every day. That is my goal, that is what I want.

"You Can Be..." print by Bird Ave, $20 via Etsy

And part of her correspondence was:

I know you’re going to look back at some point and breathe a huge sigh of relief. I know that you will keep doing what your heart has been telling you to do. I know that everything has its timeframe and plan, and sometimes we don’t know what’s coming, but we keep going until we hit a wall or the universe opens up into a world we didn’t even think existed beyond our dreams. Sometimes we don’t even dare to dream anything other than what we know, because of all of the roadblocks and negative people and energy (and bills!). But, when we take those steps away from what we know we don’t want or what we no longer will tolerate, the path always appears.

Before making the switch from full time job to cooking-as-a-fulltime-job, I found a book (well, I found many books, but this one in particular) that helped put the need for change in perspective. Snap, Crackle or Stop by Barbara Quinn came to me by way of a library book sale. While I was initially drawn to the cover design, the content was like a sassy friend holding a career intervention.

The first two sentences of the book are: “I am convinced we have the power to master our own destiny. It all comes down to choosing passion over the ordinary and for accepting that our fate is what we make it.”

There is so much incredible wisdom and straight-forward insight in this book, it’s nearly impossible to choose excerpts, but here we go:

If you do nothing to make the change, nothing is what you’ll get.

The hard work has to start with you. No one else can tell you. Deep down you probably know or could describe your fantasy job. Sooner or later, you are going to have to admit it out loud to someone.

Don’t give in to complacency. Being average is tragic.

We have a hard time accepting that we can do anything. The only thing stopping us is us.

How many more years can you convince yourself that “good enough” is okay? Would you want that for your spouse, your children? If a loved one was very sick and you could take them to a nearby doctor that was fine, or make a long drive overnight to another city to see one of the best specialists to treat that condition, would you really go to the local doctor because it’s more convenient?

When did convenience become more important than passion?

I’m not in any way trying to say it’s just soo easy. For years I had been telling myself: I need more money. I need to pay off more debt. I need more formal education. Someone else has more experience. I don’t know where to start. It would be irresponsible toward my family if I just picked up and did whatever I felt like.

So I ask you, if you have those same thoughts: Are all of those things MORE IMPORTANT than finding ways to work toward doing what you love every day and getting paid for it? (And don’t you think making money at something that brings you joy every day is, on the contrary, one of the best things you could do for your family?)

Those may be valid excuses, but they are still excuses.

What would you love to wake up every day and do? And how can you begin to take steps toward doing it? I ask that sincerely. This is currently one of my favorite topics to discuss, so if you have insight or just want a chat, you know where to find me.


9 thoughts on ““I Just Want to…..”

  1. Sounds like a great book, as I share the same quest, I believe most of us do. There’s alot of hard work that goes into the choice of doing what you love. I am in the trenches of the hard work right now! I refuse to do what I can rather than what I want. Leaving a day job that pays the bills to go for and realize your dreams is HUGE! Best of Luck to ya!

    • Thanks Kelly, and I know your hard work will pay off! Working hard will get you so much farther than just wishing, haha. And it’s a lot less risky when the “job that pays the bills” doesn’t pay that much. You can make up the financial difference pretty fast. In any case, thank you so much for your comment and check in to let us all know how you’re doing! 🙂

  2. Another super inspirational post from you! These are the things I need to hear and keep telling myself over and over as I struggle with doing what I “should” do over doing what I would LOVE to do.
    I still am not exactly ready to take a giant plunge into it, but I’m taking steps and will eventually get there 🙂

    • Angela, the only thing you “should do” is what you want. I don’t mean that nearly as haphazard and teenage-rebellious as it sounds. But really! If you go into business for yourself you get to -make the protocol and the rules-. It’s kind of crazy and hard to comprehend when you’ve only worked for other people. You want to re-design your store? Okay, grab a paintbrush. You want to always have Fridays off? Done. You want to use humor in your marketing to stand out from others that seem sort of stuffy and boring? Go crazy. You can seriously do whatever you want.
      And taking steps is how anyone gets anywhere, so good for you, lady 🙂 Keep going!

  3. I soooo needed this post! I can totally relate – I’m in a funk over this same idea right now. I plan on getting that book and figuring out a way to make it happen! Thanks for the inspiration!


    • Jena, that is great news!!! Seriously, go with your gut. Easier said than done, I know I know, but if you can find that you are able to keep afloat of your bills and responsibilities while you get things started, just do it. I can’t think of anything else that should stand in the way of what you know in your heart you should do.

      That book is SO GOOD, and also: check out “Boss of You” by Laura Bacon and Emira Mears. They also have a website (http://www.laurenandemira.com/) but that book, oh my gosh, it’s like the best business book ever for women who don’t need to “fight for the corner office”, or who want to run businesses based on love and passion instead of money and becoming an executive or whatever.

      PLEASE stay in touch, and if you EVER want to talk about this, shoot me an email or something. For real, I could talk about this all day!

  4. I just ordered Snap, Crackle or Stop! 4 bucks on Amazon – can’t beat that! And Lauren & Emira’s site and book look amazing as well. I’ll definitely be spending some time checking out their stuff! Thanks for sharing these wonderful resources with us!


  5. Love this post! I really needed to hear about your bravery right at this moment as I contemplate my own journey and what I want to change going forward.
    Thanks so much for the references as well….definitetly going to them out of the library!

    • Thank you Wendy! And I mean it, if you ever want to talk, please let me know! I did a LOT of talking before making any moves (and even then, I had loving threats coming from friends and my boyfriend to just make the jump already!) – and you have my support 100%! Do it!

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